The Moving Mentality
Attitude is everything. While the moving process can be demanding, it will go much more smoothly if you stay positive. Every situation has it’s good and bad, but focusing on the good will result in a much more enjoyable experience. Moving is an opportunity to meet new people, learn a new culture, and live in another city or part of the world. Ultimately, it gets you out of your comfort zone so you can grow as a person.
I think being able to move is a privilege. Some people end up living in the same city or area their entire life. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but they will never know anything else. Having to move somewhere is a blessing in disguise I believe for most people. Everything happens for a reason.
Living somewhere new won’t be without challenges, but that is what makes anything worthwhile. You can look at moving as drudgery or an exciting adventure. The choice is yours.
One might view moving as a detrimental experience for children. I believe it’s quite the opposite. Moving can provide them with a different perspective on life, plus they learn how to make new friends. Their social skills will be more developed as a result. Plus, moving can really bring a family closer together.
Change can be resisted or embraced. Celebrating the move sounds like a lot more fun than dreading it. If you love parties, then why not throw one more before leaving? If you don’t care for parties (like me), then celebrate by having a casual get together with your closest family and friends. How you celebrate doesn’t really matter.
Visit your favorite places before leaving. Take pictures if you want to. If you have a family, ask each person where they would like to go. Once you arrive at your new home, find some new favorite places.
Experience The Culture
If you’re going to move, you might as well make the most of it. This might be your opportunity to get the dream home you’ve always wanted. Explore the area for all that it has to offer. Try a variety of restaurants, visit museums, and be active within the community.
Home Sweet Home
With time, your new city will start to feel like home. The timetable is different for everyone. For some, it may take six months to a year before they feel comfortable. If you feel unsettled for awhile, don’t despair; that’s perfectly normal.
Getting into a new routine and making friends will bring some stability to your life. Talking to close family and friends can also help you get through the transition.
The one thing I almost tell myself no matter what circumstance I find myself in, whether good or bad: it’s only temporary. Life is ever-changing; nothing ever stays the same forever.
Being emotional about the move is perfectly normal. But that is only temporary. You will feel much better once a sense of normalcy is established once again. Having a good attitude and an open mind will accelerate the transition.
Being active in the community is one of the best ways to meet new people and get settled in. Examples include volunteer work, joining a gym, or taking a class or two of interest. Consider joining a club, such as cooking, outdoor recreation, wine-tasting, books, and so on. I’m certain that you can find at least one activity that you like participating in.
If you put yourself out there enough, you might be surprised at the friends you’ll make. Don’t expect neighbors to just show up at your front door and introduce themselves. You must be the one to take the initiative. After all, you are moving into their neighborhood.
Bring A Map
For awhile, you may need to bring a map with you wherever you go. You can get directions anywhere off the internet. Google Earth is an excellent tool that you can use to get a better feel for the area.
The Moving Blues
You may find yourself reminiscing about your old place in the early stages of the move. You might think about how much you miss the way things were. But keep in mind that there were likely things that you didn’t like. Chances are there is something about your new life that is better than your old one. If you felt good about the move initially, then trust that it will work out the way you want it to.
37% of job-related moves fail because the family does not form new relationships or set down permanent roots. If a situation becomes too overwhelming, then moving again might be the best decision. At the very least, give the new area a chance.
I truly believe that learning to love and embrace the move is so important in order for it to be a good experience.
Yes, moving can be stressful. The to-do list for many is a mile long. Always be conscious of how you’re treating those around you. Sometimes stress can cause rude behavior and angry outbursts. No one wins when that happens.
If you find yourself getting stressed, take a break and relax. Listen to some music, breathe deeply, or take part in a hobby. Find an outlet instead of taking it out on your loved ones.
Make your move an adventure. Have fun with it. Look at what’s in front of you instead of what’s being left behind.
Whether you plan on hiring professionals or doing it yourself, expect something to go wrong. Problems will likely arise no matter how well you plan and organize the move. Always remember that any problem can be solved, no matter how bad it may seem